Part of you can not wait to dive into your new career — but you’re also smart enough to know you could expect a few bumps along the path to success. Undoubtedly, the biggest roadblocks exist between your own two ears! Let’s take a look at three common mental roadblocks and find out how to overcome them.
How often have you wished you had hit the lottery? Now, how often have you won the lottery? Too many people spend too much time wanting when they need to be dreaming. So, what’s the difference between dreaming and wishing? Wishing is passive. We need for things over which we have little if any control. We wish we were taller or thinner. We wish the waiter would hurry up. Another thing about wishes is they are often tinged with doubts about previous decisions — both big and small.
We wish we had ordered the fish rather than the chicken. We wish we had taken another job. We wish we had not allow the love of our life get away. Dreaming is different. For one, a fantasy is active. Unlike fantasies, we could actually do something about a fantasy. After all, you do not”desire up” a strategy, you dream up one!
- It doesn’t require a single additional ounce of energy to dream large than it will to settle.
- You’ve got a lot more to gain by shooting high than by shooting low.
ROADBLOCK No. 2: What If Everyone Thinks You’re Crazy? You’ve probably already thought about the people that you can depend on to support your strategy to produce a more purposeful work/life. But have you taken stock of these you should make a point NOT to turn to? If you don’t come either from money or from a long line of leaders, you might not receive the support you need from your loved ones.
With the best of intentions, you might find your dream of quitting your job to pursue your dream career fulfilled information to “play it safe,” reminders that”you are lucky to have a fantastic job,” or a lecture on the apparently insurmountable odds standing between you and success. However old you are, or how much you deny it, family approval does matter. Which, naturally, makes it even more debilitating when the people we love fail to provide us the psychological green light we so desperately seek.
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Other people’s fear, uncertainty, and negativity can be as contagious as the flu. And unless you have built up your immune system, these fantasy stompers can knock you for a loop — particularly when they’re right on your family. You’ve got two choices. You can either continue to turn to those naysayers in hopes that they will respond differently — or, you may pick the saner path of approval.
Don’t search for assistance from individuals whose life experiences haven’t prepared them to provide it completely. Instead, benefit from the support that is really available. The nearer you come to leaving the safety of your 9-to-5 project (regardless of how much you need out) the higher your level of excitement and trepidation (see “Word to the Wise,” below). Anyone who has ever ventured out of the safe little world will tell you they had doubts. But when it comes to making a significant life change, not only is a certain amount of anxiety absolutely ordinary, it is actually valuable. For instance, it’s our healthy fears that prevent us from jumping off cliffs. And the wonderful thing about fear is that there are ways to get around it. So, try laughing at the face of fear.
Am I kidding?
No. Ridiculing your fears is truly a very effective method for banishing them because the mind rejects what it considers absurd. The secret is to turn your fears into a ridiculous event on your mind. That way, you let your natural human response to absurdity to take over and dismiss them. Try it yourself. Take your biggest fear and take it to extremes. Really exaggerate it. Let’s say you are paralyzed with the fear of failure.
Pretty ridiculous, right? When you understand that your worst-case dream is just that — a dream — what felt overwhelming will now feel a lot more manageable. Another way to handle the fear of venturing out on your own is to start small. If the notion of just up and quitting your day job frightens you, then begin building your customer base on the side. Begin with low-risk actions and slowly work your way up into the harder stuff. Remember, courage isn’t an issue of losing your fear so that you can take actions; courage stems from taking action. And that, in turn, can help you conquer your fear. As soon as you are able to act despite your fears, you’ll be rewarded repeatedly.