Are you watching the Olympics? Are you impressed with the skill, style, determination, stamina, endurance, grace, and aesthetics of the athletes doing what they do best? If you are like millions of people throughout the world during those weeks, you’re. Seeing various Olympic events gets me thinking about how these athletes are in many ways nothing like me and you, since they’re extraordinary.
The amount of people in the entire world who will do what they do – and do it well – are few. It’s interesting to see how “super-human” mere humans can be. Yet, are they different from us? Not to take anything away from their specific skills and abilities, which they got over years of training and sacrifice, but in a way, we could all learn to direct “Olympic” lives. What do I mean by this? The Olympics are important to us, as viewers, since they represent several positive qualities about the world we live in: individuals from so many diverse nations, gathering in peace and competing in fair contests with an elaborate set of rules that are inspirational.
They represent what happens when all (well, almost everything) goes directly with the human body. The games show us what we’re capable of – in theory – by being human. And part of this contest is to be judged on the demonstration of these attempts, making the Gold (the ultimate), Silver (excellent), or the Bronze (good ), and even merely to observe participants (even non-medal-winners), who qualified enough to compete (still commendable, even extraordinary). If we use the Olympic games as a metaphor for Life, how do you do? Your chosen”game” is your chosen lifestyle – domestically/personally, and professionally.
How do you do?
Gold? Silver? Bronze? Participating? Or are you qualifiying for your preferred”event”? In life, we do not have Olympic judges . But we do have ourselves , by our own subjective evaluation of how life is going. What does it take to win the Gold? I believe therapy is much like the coaches that the Olympic athletes have. Sure, the athletes, in the end of the day, would be the ones doing the real performance (sort of like a therapy client), but they likely would not perform as well with no coach to evoke, inspire, guide, refine, troubleshoot, and discover the operation within them. The athletes achieve more with a fantastic coach than they can achieve without one.
It’s tough to “win gold” all of the time in life, but there are moments when we do, and we enjoy the feelings associated with these minutes, and keep those feelings in our memory as the”high points” of our own lives. Some people achieve plenty of Gold; we view them constantly: the top-performers in the office; the super-parents who appear to do it all; the college colleagues that are beautiful, talented, wealthy, kind, socially active, and not appear to get tired; the folks in the gym that appear to do everything well and look good doing it; the neighbors that appear to just “have it together” and make it all seem so simple. There’s also a great deal of Silver we see – people who do well, but not what goes right, all the time.
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They’re not perfect, but they do not need to be. They achieve a whole lot, just not the most. But they appear to master things more frequently than not. When we see Bronze, we are seeing people with lives that are getting most things right – but perhaps certain flaws get in the way of complete accomplishment. The celebrity who wins awards, but gets in trouble with her alcohol abuse. The politician that does great things for many people, but gets caught in a scandalous lie. The businessperson who assembles great riches – but they did it via some type of exploitation. They’d be great, except for, well, something which prevents greatness.
Then there are those who don’t win awards, but they participate in life. They do not stand out, but just a few people can really stick out at any one time – that is what”standing out” is. Most of us might fit within this category, and that is OK. They simply do their”game”, day after day, and revel in the playing – even if important glory and recognition never find them. And there are people who don’t even qualify to play the Life Game: offenders, people who do not even try, those that are too busy interrupting and undermining others’ fantasies to ever really attain their own. We’ve all seen, or understood, these types. Losers. Busybodies. Haters. Freeloaders. Exploiters. Douchebags.
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You don’t need to be “that guy” (or girl). What’s keeping us down? What type of”score deductions” are keeping us from “medaling” in Life? Do we want more dedication? More practice? More self-confidence? More skills-training? More’fortune’ (which is when Preparation meets Opportunity)? Less resistance from other people? More assistance from others? More attention paid to detail? More strength and effort from us? A better path to run onpool to swim in, or gear to operate on (our environment)? We can not increase our scores to go for Gold unless we know what the score deductions are for.
These are the things that treatment can tackle, and can, with many, frequently. We don’t need to medal at Life. We can only participate – moreover, after all of the Olympic athletes wear their medals and stand at attention as their national anthem is played, what exactly do they do? Oftentimes, they go right back out and run on the trail, or float in the pool, or workout on the gear. They go back to doing what they love. Winning the decoration is fine, but getting there is far more than half of the pleasure, before and after.
And for many Olympians, finally, they will need to learn more than one”match”, if for no other reason than age and physicality change with time. So if you are not medaling in Life, perhaps you will need a different game to select. Maybe you will need to troubleshoot your operation with somebody you trust, and think about getting coaching/therapy to get better at it. Life isn’t a contest, except with yourself. You’re not being judged, except by your own conscience and your own standards of what works for YOU, today. Maybe, after the torch is extinguished, it is not whether you win or lose – it is how you played the game. For the majority of us, that is the Gold right there.